Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Sesame Street: Smell Like A Monster

I am slightly embarrassed to admit how much I LOVE the Old Spice commercial "The Man Your Man Could Smell Like." I'm not sure how healthy it is as far as the objectification of African American Men, or even for the objectification of women, but it's so funny. And now Sesame Street has a parody of it that makes me laugh a lot.

Peace

Katie

Sunday, October 10, 2010

The Perfect Woman - Part Three - Gray

We just completed a chapter on the Imago Dei in seminary. This phrase, "Made in the Image of God" has at least 4 major different interpretations. One of the big questions theologians ask is this - While human beings were made in the Image of God in Genesis, how much of that image remains now that we are living in a sinful, unjust world?

I believe, and I think that the strongest argument can be made, that while the Image of God in us has been marred by sin and injustice, there is some image of God in each person, regardless of religion, race, age, ability, history, gender, orientation etc.

One of the side effects of trying to be "The Perfect Woman", is a tendency to make all or nothing decisions. Resulting in misunderstanding of grace towards the imperfections of myself and others.

Either I'm perfect - OR - I'm a failure
Either He's a spiritual person - OR - he's a hypocrite
Either She's a good friend - OR - She's a terrible friend
Either that church cares about the community - OR - they're self-centered.

Again there's a problem. If members of our community or community groups are being held to an impossible, all or nothing standard, we miss opportunities to love them.

So we're becoming what we love, if we love perfection, if we love clear cut, black and white, all or nothing, we'll continue to put people into boxes, hold them on impossibly high and wobbly pedestals or relegate them to small boxes where there is no hope for redemption. Certainly, some things are "black and white." But I suspect that for many things there is much more gray (or grey if your an Anglophile) then we let ourselves believe.

In community, there must be gray.

Well not Macy Gray, but since you were asking for a flashback to the year 2000 here you go.


Plus did you see Andy on The Office cover this last week? Hulu it "Andy's Play" about minute 19, so sweet. (Did I mention that all 4 of us have been sick over the past week? I've watched a lot of TV).

The Perfect Woman - Part Two - Shoulds

Perfectionist Thinking
This picture is from the British Feminist Mental Health Blog Crazy Like Us?

I'm still reading Stronger Than You Think

One of the challenges in the book is to examine the things that we women tell ourselves. I started by making a list of "should"s that I tell myself often, some include:

  • I should always look cute, but professional, attractive but not slutty, trendy but not trashy
  • I shouldn't care about how I look, not be superficial
  • I should eat wholesome, homemade, healthy, carefully prepared organic food.
  • I should take less time cooking and more time doing homework, work, and chores.
  • I should give 110% of myself to my job
  • I should give 110% of myself to my studies
  • I should give 110% of myself to my relationship, family and friends
  • I should lead a perfectly balanced life, and remember to take a weekly sabbath, and quarterly vacation, get 8 hours of sleep every night and an hour of physical activity every day.
  • I should speak my mind assertively
  • I should question the things that are coming out of my mouth.
Do you see the problem? You can't both strive to look cute, professional, attractive, and trendy, while simultaneously not caring what you look like.

You can't give 330% of yourself, neither can you give even 100% of yourself to any activity.

I want to be conformed more and more to the image of Christ. I want know more deeply that it is His love that defines me, not how well I live up to my list of "shoulds." I don't want to want to be perfect. I want to want to be His.

Reconsider Columbus Day

We had lots of illness at the house this week, I haven't forgotten about the "perfect woman" series, but I wanted to share this. I'm sure 7 of your friends have already shared it on facebook, but just in case.

Katie